Let’s begin with the premise that there is a lid for every pot. That’s right; there is someone out there for everyone. Well, maybe not you, but everyone else.
You have to recognize the concept of "leagues" and you will thrive. This means, try to stay in your league if you wish to get dates. If you decide to venture out of your league, don’t jump too high or you shall fail.
If you let yourself go or have aged poorly there are plenty of others to keep you company, just don’t go for the prime specimen and feel bad that you were turned down or that no one ever tries to contact you. Simple rule: stay in your league.
If your highest level of education was ninth grade, don't try dating a Ph.D. If you were the nerd of your neighborhood, don't try to date the prom queen/king. Of course, all of these rules go out the window if you are rich or gorgeous - life can be so shallow!
Next step is to consider moving up in your league the smart way. This is done by combing your hair and grooming yourself to the best of your ability and posting a nice photo, or if you are really goofy looking and lonely, learn how to use Photoshop to fudge your photos. At least then you'll get some calls.
Seriously, if you are going to post a photo to your online dating service, be real. Try to smile, put on a little makeup (ladies), get the grease off your fingers (guys), and make sure the background photo is not of your backyard where you keep your old tires and car parts or your one-room tenement with that velvet picture of a tiger on the wall behind you.
Make sure your action photos don't reveal too much, like the women who post photos of them bending over to put on a shoe so as to showoff cleavage - and like the guys who post photos of themselves bent over working on their Corvettes while their butt cracks inadvertantly show. Nothing wrong with showing a little cleavage, us guys love that, but the guys might be better off hiding the butt and posting a photo showing their "six-pack" - no not the beer belly, the tight abs.
Remember, a picture is worth a thousand words, so too much macho stuff and too many revealing shots will attract those kind of dates you may regret and then you go around complaining all your dates are "players" only interested in "one thing," or the women just
want me for material things - duh! Go back and look at your posted photos.
Do you have to post photos? Absolutely! Most ptople seem to ignore anyone who doesn't post a photo.
How many photos should you post? Make sure you post at least two but preferably four or more. You have to understand that these little photos are all about "chemistry." It's true! We all look at those thumbnail photos and something happens in our brains. Yes, we realize we need our eyes checked. Well that too, but we either feel something or we don't. Isn't it that way in person? We are attracted to different looks and if you want to be successful at Internet dating, you want to avoid waisting your time
Posting photos that show you far away is ridiculous. Your face has to show and preferably a good close up shot, followed by the full body shot, again, not so far away that all we can see is the mountain or ocean in the background. Folks want to see what you look like and how you are built. I know, you may be a little embarrassed. I'm not telling you to post a naked shot, just one that shows whether you are fat or thin. You can cheat a little by wearing black. Yes, cover yourself with a black tent. The point is to be honest in your recent photos. We don't want to know what you looked like ten years ago, nor do we want five pictures of your pets, car, vacation photos or pictures of your ex who you cropped out, just leaving his/her arm around you.
If you follow the rules, there is less wasted time. You won't get dates that have no chance of being successful. You won't be disappointed nor will you have as many expectations destroyed. Remember, if you are Internet dating in a small town, you can't afford to go on too many failed dates because there just aren't as many people out there. And once you are found out as being a phoney-poster no one will contact you as word gets around.
Next time we will explore the "meat" of your posting: how to write your profile.
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