Once you are situated, having registered with an online dating service, uploaded your photo, provided a nice profile describing how wonderful you are, and having chosen a cool Internet dating name, you are now ready to search for a mate. Keep in mind that if you are drop dead gorgeous, a.k.a. hot, hot, hot, you may not have time to search for your mate since there will be so many daters emailing you at your dating site address that you won’t have time to search for anyone. Suppose you are just "hot" or reasonably gorgeous or even average. You folks will want to begin your search for Prince Charming or Princess Amazing and there are some rules to follow.
You begin by searching to eliminate the thousands of potential mates who don’t fit your profile. For example, if you are looking for someone who is fat or thin or of average build, you can put those descriptors into the screening search and find a bunch of people who fit your desires. With this search, you can’t find every characteristic, but it helps a great deal. No one wants to read through thousands of profiles when you can cut that number down by eliminating things you do or don’t want.
Depending on the dating site you join, you can usually search for smokers or non-smokers, social drinkers or non-drinkers, heights, body shapes, or weight,
race, religion, location (do they live nearby), hair and eye color, marital status, do they have or want children, and a host of other variables. You should spend a lot of time searching so that you don’t end up dating someone religious if you’re not, likes the great outdoors if you do not, and so on.
The next step is to look at the little photos posted next to each profile. This is the chemistry part of the adventure. You will look at hundreds of thumbnail photos that offer a glimpse of this person's appearance. Remember, these photos may be deceptive; however, this usually provides an awesome advantage in finding someone to love. You can often tell in a flash if someone is appealing to you, so there is no need to read more or make a date with someone if you have no chemistry.
Many of you may declare that it is shallow, immoral and inaccurate to base your search for a mate on a mere thumbnail photo, but let’s face it, we do this in all dating venues. If you are at a bar and someone approaches, in one second you can tell if you have any interest in most cases. Sometimes, it may take two seconds if you had too much to drink.
Once you find a photo you like, you should read the profile with a fine-tooth comb. It’s not complicated; look for people who do things you like to do and have similar wants, needs, and desires. You should have noted that on your profile if you are looking for a meaningful long-term relationship. Now find those who want the same long term relationship. If you are looking for raw sex... actually that isn't one of the characteristics usually found in these profiles. However, if you are interested in a relationship devoid of sex, use the code words: looking for marriage - just kidding. Why waste everyone’s time contacting those looking for a pen-pal if you want more? Why date a person who is not interested in marriage if that's what you want?
Now that you found your perfect match or at least a few perspective mates, it’s time to be bold and take action. Yes, it’s time to contact them. Next time, we will discuss how to get that part of the dating process done.
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